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2015年5月31日 星期日

不春不夏得夏天? 2015

31日-五月-2015年   不春不夏的天  

每一位你最近好嗎?
我在打這篇字的時候, 已經踏入六月了 .
時間真的不等人 ... 我書桌前掛了一個日曆 , 看著自己在這個月一點一丁完成的事 , 心感愉悅 .
我離開面書(Facebook) 已經有好一段時間了,
也許這個做法 有利於我能夠專心做事 , 但也幣於很多朋友也因此和我斷了聯絡 .
臉書的出現 ,讓很多人都得了方便 , 但也讓我的拖延症蔓延成第三季絕症 .
幸好我還有醫治的機會 , 即是立刻離開臉書 才不成不治之症 .

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這次想分享一個電子書名為 : 「一個人的房間 」
它的(後記)大概是這樣的 .
清心  , 怡然
不管我們在哪裡漂泊 ,
不管是住在什麼樣的地方, 身體找到了窩 , 就要給心安下來 。
安心, 就是擁有從容的心境,誠懇的對待自己, 不做作自己, 也不折騰別人,
每天收拾房间,顺便打扫自己的心境 .
最好的时间 , 永远是现在 . 你说 可不是吗?
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刚溜走的冬天 我到了苏格兰一趟 ,
接触了当地人 才发现 ,
同是生活在同一遍陆地的苏格兰人 和 英格兰人或威尔士人 的性格竟然有天渊之别 ,
苏格兰 , 我觉得是United Kingdom四个国家里 最美最有特色
他的气质 象征着威武的士兵 ?
古韵味特浓的她?
在陌生的国度 ,
感觉清晨的阳光  特别干净
如果你来到英国   这高地 必须走一趟



滑雪不比我们想象中来得简单
加上 是在恶劣的暴风雪下 
学会了第一堂滑雪课  
那打在脸上的雪 随感刺痛   但却是一种自由的感觉 


 回到威尔士 ,
我还是喜欢溜达在山水之间
亲戚朋友取笑我 怎么就变成了乡下妹子了呢 ?
我回答 :  只是不想造成 城市人口膨胀
分享我很喜欢的一句话 :







这个有幸能够呆着的小地方  ; ) 


对了 , 隆重介绍 这是我的钢琴导师 , Shirley 小朋友 ,
上周一到了她的 performance ,
她是第一个让我相信 , 音乐可以治疗人类的灵魂 。
一般能打动心情的音乐就算是好音乐,但极品的音乐能打动人的灵魂。
前者像以喧哗取胜、辅之以速食爱情歌词的流行音乐,听了一段时间,心情有所转变,于是又会另结新欢;
后者像古典一点的音乐,每次聆听都会触动心底藏得最紧的那根弦,一种触及梦幻的感觉。
她修的是古典钢琴 ,认识她 就觉得世界是充满希望了,
感谢这位正能量天使 , 
我在想人拥有宗教信仰  绝对是一件好的事情 . 



好了,下次再见  希望英国的夏天快来到  .
希望在看我部落的你 , 安好   ;) 晚安

2014年10月12日 星期日

Llanhilleth  秋  雨天  2014-10月 -13日

在看我部落的朋友  吉祥  安好
今天的标题 看似有些沉重   其实并不是那个沉
而是 沉淀的沉
现在的生活状态可以用沉淀来形容自己


试想 一杯花茶或是一杯咖啡  如果不去 搅拌它  它会沉淀在杯底 而清水在上蜉蝣
凡是精华所属之物永远都会是   ’储以待晋‘  其实词典里没这成语 是我刚想的  
希望看的明白单词的人 都猜的到意思  呵呵
最近 一位的朋友 事业上 有很受青睬的成绩 不负众望  
心底里  为他感到正真的骄傲 喜悦

同时我在想 自己是否象自己所说的   ’储以待晋‘   在一个储蓄子弹的待机状态  
有位朋友说了一句话
;‘ 用行动做出来的 , 永远比,只是用口说出来的 有价值 . 实体价值 . ’

试问自己 初心还在吗 ? 目标依然还清晰吗 ?
在这一年里  完成了什么?  
不过   也不要被这些问题 使得自己太过恐慌  这是需要时间完成的
这是需要时间的帮助 去沉淀  去实现 去理解  去开拓




暑假过去了  新的学期到了  新年级  还转了学校  为了配合上班时间
是不舍旧学校还有旧同学  但是没办法  鱼与熊掌 不能 两者兼得
希望自己能够从新融入新的环境和人


亲爱的她  最终决定了回去马来西亚发展
说起来非常佩服她 做了这么艰难的抉择
接下来 她将会面对更多问题  而要学会如何作出更多艰难抉择
[最近看了一个演讲 来自Ruth chang, 想用文字分享 她说的精华]
艰难抉择 教会了我们要审视自己能把身心与精力放在何处 , 自己究竟追求什么 , 并通过困难抉择来成为那种人 .  艰难抉择不是痛苦和恐惧的来源, 而是难得的机遇 
让我们庆幸人类有如此特殊的选择权利 , 
庆幸有时候区分选择  正误的理性原由会用尽 , 
而且, 庆幸又在这个具有艰难抉择的世界里 , 我们有能力创造理由 , 
去成为与众不同的自己 。 





时间一天一天的过去  , 已经习惯了 关上了房门 就东忙西忙  一天的结束  另一天的开始
日复一日的进行式
我感恩 我平安的 安静的 在 储以待晋

=)

下一次 上来 得分享我住的 小城



2014年1月7日 星期二

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

Some words have to always bear in mind   =)
 read it and love it

Definitely ”share-worthy”. 


When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.



As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.



Here are some ideas to get you started:
  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
  11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
  16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
  18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done.
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.
  28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
  30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

2014年1月1日 星期三

總結 2013

2014 一月一日  00:00  Llanhilleth  冬

春夏秋過去了......
今年沒有和朋友出去買醉 . 下班以後. 回到家 , 洗了個熱水澡 .
房間的燈光一如既往的溫暖 .
坐在電腦面前 , 我. 想. 又是時候 總結一回2013  
還能不能一字一句的記載在部落格上?
私隱可言.
年齡增張, 話也少 字也不多了


過去這一年...................
身仍在異鄉 , 別人的城市燈火輝煌 ,
故鄉的安逸缺讓我差點忘了飛翔,
落寞時 , 請記得一句話 ; 沒有夢想 , 何必遠方
可以喊累嗎?
不能. 此路乃選 .


今年所學到的言為
大其心 ,容天下之物 ; 虛其心,愛天下之善 ;
平其心, 論天下之事;定其心,應天下之變 ;





以下這張是貼給家人的. 開學至今我終於在學校交到幾個朋友,
 並順利通過了第一個考試
嘗試了第一個Presentation 「圖中是Simeo & Rob」
原來我是可以的. 
還有什麼能難倒呢?




過去這一年我學會了釋懷
我學會了自信 
我學會了努力
我學會了不再看別人的缺點
多發現別人的優點 
我學會了給予 
我學會了接受
你在過去的這一年 有學到了什麼嗎?



2014 如今我一切安好 . 你呢?

2013年8月17日 星期六

力量

2013 . 八月. 十七日  威爾士.秋天

在看著我部落格的你 ...  你好嗎?
上一篇在春天寫的部落  過了整整一個夏天. 才更新.
我知道偶爾 家人會來這裡探探我.  老朋友也會.
聽聽我換上的新歌 . 看看我到過的地方 . 猜猜我在過著什麼樣的生活 .

有一次 , 黃子華說 .. 現在的年輕人啊. 都喜歡把日記寫到網上 .
以前的日記 ,是寫給自己看的. 現在的日記 是分享到網上 給所有人看的.
所以 .. 那不叫做日記. 叫傳記 ....
hehe . 時代進步了. 傳記真的不只是偉人們的專利咯.


* 人生的另一頁又快掀開了.
偷偷告訴大家 . 我就快可以返回學校咯!Wohoo ... 是不是很牛?
啊~ 經過了漫長的努力 , 願望一號達成!
為了要返回學校學習  . 我費了7牛3虎之力 ..熬着很多孤獨的歲月,打工打得手指頭都粗了T.T , 有人安慰我說, 這就是能者多勞啊 安慰我這位手指變粗的美人說 .
希望自己會被錄取.


* 命運無關幾率 , 而關乎選擇 .
其實 , 本人從來都不相信 看相星座命理 .  因為潛意識和顯意識的自己都被灌輸了一個概念 , 就是命運掌握在自己的手中  .
我選擇了在這個大家都快大學畢業的年齡 又再次踏入校門 .
不是我要對抗命運  只是覺得自己知識還不足夠 , 沒量力而為 . 懶蟲危害 ,
為了自己 為了下一代 為了社會 . 我拼了! (話說的自己也快結冰了,真不好意思shy*+*)

* 不抱怨的世界
最近留意到了這一本天書 , 我在想辦法把它給網購回來..
看了簡介 . 大概理解到的意思 .. 是終身受用的.
我的理解意譯 -
現實生活中 , 我們都會有意無意的對著一丁點事在抱怨 , 抱怨得太多, 所有的事情都變得複雜,依據吸引力法則 ,
而好的事物自自然然也都會離我們而去  .  
如果你覺得你現在不快樂 ,
付出行動 , 而行動就是 -》 嘗試一個星期 , 也許一天裡面 都不抱怨任何事情,無論是說閒話或批評 .
堅持下去 .. 你會發現 世界很美好. 活著真有趣  =)

話說 女生分享護照人頭照是需要很多的勇氣 ><
我的小星星 (^.^)   
朋友之樂, 貴在那份踏實的信任
  
一個人到了海邊   才發現 , 一個人到海邊是沒意義的事情 =.= 


=)

2013年3月3日 星期日



3 March 2013 
一早 接到妈妈得来电
妈妈和Uncle Jim正一起外出吧
笑谈一阵...好长的一段日子没谈得那么开心了...  
傍晚又有闺蜜既一通来电 她说. 要过一些正能量给我窝.. 
这几天不清楚怎么了, 一直处于低潮状态 
不断找些名言来提醒自己   让自己赶快复原

有人说. 如果你的生活已处于低谷 , 那就
大胆走, 因为无论你怎样走都是在向上 =) 

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有的人来到你的身边, 是告诉你什么是真情;
有的人, 是告诉你什么是假意;
就像有得人来到你的身边是为了给你温暖,有的人是为了使你心寒 。 
这一切都是生命的礼物,无论你喜欢与否也要接受, 然后学着明白它们的意义。 --张小娴







每一高低起伏
Thanks for be with me .... My dearest No.1  
friend?sisda?bff?  nothing can describe me and you lo Yeh ~~~~















Who will be the next ? to receive this postcard .

2013年2月6日 星期三

2013年2月2日 星期六

念 无题


忙。好像,我时刻都很忙,忘忙到了时光在流转。

多久没有听她们的唠叨了?一个电话,她做着最经常做的事:絮絮地说着怎样了,邻居怎么了,家里发生了什么事情……她笑着,我听着,是安宁,也是想念。
如果她告诉我:生病了、腿不好使了、喉咙不舒服了、眼睛看不清晰了、腰酸了……我会安慰说,没事的。可是,心里就是在难过,因为童年里,妈和姨是一个无所不能的人。
哪怕不去注意岁月,它依旧流动着。一切的一切,放佛还发生在不久前。突然发现,妈妈和阿姨变得脆弱了。岁月,别伤害他们 ..... 而我,从今开始,要更加疼爱她们
送上 漂亮的她们 .        这是我美丽的妈妈 - Linda 
 

这是我漂亮的阿姨 - chooi pheng 美人


少不了我的外婆 .... 燕姐姐



虽然我很冷酷 .. 虽然我不经常给你们致电 ... 但是心里总是挂念
这是我第四个不在家过的年 愿家人 愿朋友 愿 陌生人 . 四季平安  福气常伴  

2013年1月23日 星期三

記載今天的心情

Ebbw Vale 2:21am  Snowfall -'3C


今天特別高興 , 是有史以來 
我不是懷著憂鬱的心情來到部落格上寫文章 , 而是帶著輕鬆 振奮的心情回到自己的窩 . 
啊 ... 現在我的部落格 已經沒有音樂聽.  原因是 免費播歌軟件的公司倒閉了.
所以呢, 如果你到訪我的部落格, 可不可以順便到youtube開一首歌 來配合你到訪的心情?
哈哈.....
嗯. 今天不知那條神經線出現問題  , 聽住歌 來自己的部落格巡視.. 
好開心 自己一直以來有打字紀錄的習慣
好開心 自己喜歡拿手機紀錄生活點滴 
好開心 自己到老時 應該會是一個很豐富的老人 呵呵
謝小朋友<自己    日子還長著呢  慢慢走

剛剛看了 - ‘叫我第一名’ 18分鐘視頻
這短電影沒啓發我 ,  而是像面鏡子一樣反映了我對生活對大自然的看法. 
電影大崗 - 有一小朋友患上先天抽縮症候群 , 但他沒有被這病打倒 反而伴著他成長
而成為他日後成功之母 
訴說孩子們看的世界是,‘ 不是我不能 , 而是看我肯不肯’
學識 keep going 堅持到底
我不多說, 我附link : 你記得花18分鐘看就對了 -
Front of the class =「 http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=112120172297736 」
有中文字幕 

我永遠相信心境好 生活才好, 學會欣賞你自己的生活吧 , 你 將會得到意想不到的收獲 
別給環境打敗.  
學會如何讓它變得更美麗 再美麗一點點 ... =) 

附图-我身处的‘避世小镇’ 后面一大片是被雪覆盖的山坡






A lot of emotional stress that people go through, some people figure out a way to handle it. They have a strong enough support system to keep going and keep moving forward. And some people, they feel like they don't have that outlet.